Sunday, August 7, 2011

Sitting down with Anger

Today I sat with Anger and his sidekick frustration; I invited them in as Thich Naht Hanh suggests.  I understand the surfacing of Anger is necessary and under my control. I can keep him on my mind or cast him aside. Instead, I can invite his mother, Peace, or his sister, Gratitude, to sit with me. Angers company is my choice. He is real and doesn't die, so he needs to be heard. He can be put to the side, and although not forgotten, I can give him rest. Anger is not stronger than I am. I will not be consumed by him for a day, a month, a year or a lifetime but every so often even anger needs my attention.  I believe Anger should be allowed a few minutes; or mindful consideration for an hour. When I interview Anger I find his nastiness retreats once rational thought enters my inner dialogue. He doesn't mind retreating but he has to be heard, understood and accepted first. Anger wants to answer questions and he also likes to be politely told he cannot stay; that he will be replaced by his peaceful, gracious reletives. Then Anger quietly slinks off --taking his anxious pal frustration along. The departure of Anger is quite unlike the simmering, beckoned entrance that is lured by discontent, which beg me to suffer about things unchangeable and unanswerable.

3 comments:

  1. Anger is a natural normal part of our emotions. It's how we deal with it that keeps managed. We all have to get a bit angry at times. But blowing up or hitting or hurting someone/something is a sign someone doesn't know how to deal with it. I read, write, listen to New Age music or things that take my mind off of whatever is making me angry.

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  3. Thanks for your comment Barb. Letting others see how others deal with anger can be helpful. I have diverted my attention away from anger by doing the same things you mentioned. However, when I sit with Anger; meaning think about why i'm angry and where it comes from and the uselessness of staying caught up in it being angry about that particular issue tends to stay away longer or go away completely. It's like interviewing your emotion as another person--personifying the anger. Asking: What's the trouble? Why does this plague you? Why do you really feel this? What can you do about it? Once hashed out, for me it truly melts away so I give my self time to feel it, then go about my activities without the turmoil. Whatever works!

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