Sunday, January 2, 2011

Geographical Separations

Anyone that is a baby boomer remembers growing up in some sort of a neighborhood. People really knew their neighbors- we'd open the door and go in like there house was ours!  More often than not, our siblings, aunts, uncles and cousins and friends lived nearby long after high school ended. Remember when you could tell a mom and pop storekeeper you'd be back with the $1.00 you owed them and they'd trust you for it; and I'm pretty certain most people made good on their word. 
Then we grew up and most of us didn't stay in the same town, city or suburb we grew up in. I find myself longing for the connections to the local mom and pop merchants, family, my own children lately, because geography divides us. In my community, which I have lived in for 8 years, I only know my immediate next door neighbors; and we are friendly and help each other out but we don't socialize. The connections we have nowadays often come from a work environment, or a connection to some activity like art, church, etc. Yet, most often, the people in these places are not our family, children, or best friends. Many people can say that those who are closest to us in our hearts don't live close by.  These separations usually happen because a marriage begins or ends, a job or a wish for a change of some kind is desired. Now each person is in their own space but without quick support, other than the telephone, Skype, email, or a letter but never is their a ready hug available.  I wonder, are geographical separations part of the cause of family breakdowns?    Geographical separation definately took away the old neighborhood. Does living away from the people closest to us develop more self sufficient and independent people? I have often wondered if the popularity of blogging, facebook and other social media  aren't virtual medications for our underlying starvation for living closer, in  the old neighborhood community,  where the merchants know you and you can get a real hug from a trusted friend.

4 comments:

  1. Very well said. I feel sad that my children, now adults, didn't have the luxury of growing up in a relatively safe and close environment. We didn't have time to be bored because with over 70 kids on our block ALONE, there was always someone to play with. We knew ALL of our neighbors and saw many of them socially. Our society has become so polarized; I miss my childhood neighborhood and still keep in touch with several "old" neighbors that still live in the same home. Each of us can only live our own experiences, so my kids don't understand what they've missed; their life is just their life. But I know what they missed and I wish I could give them what I had. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and bringing back some wonderful memories.

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  2. This was very well said. It's so sad that we don't have the 'closeness' anymore to our neighborhoods. I think people are too judgemental today and tend to let you know loud and clear that you aren't their 'type' or even vice versa. We may do it without even realizing it. Back then my mom was a stay at home mom and so were most of the women around us so they had coffee klatches together, went shopping together and enjoyed the company. Such a different world now. Very good post.

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  3. I believe it is possible. We live on a piece of land that ajoins my brothers land..and his sons and his daughters..all family. We share a common drive way and more..knowing we just can holler for help anytime we need it..or go for a walk and have a visit..and watch all my brothers grands grow up..three of them went to school this year! we have lots of hugs going around here:)

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  4. I agree w/everything you've said. I enjoy living in a small suburban village where you can still walk to the store and stuff. And I've been very lucky to have both parents and in-laws within 10 miles of me...it was great for my children growing up to know their grandparents. Now my older two boys/men are in the military and far away. Maybe after their stint they'll settle near me...I can only pray for that.

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